Arrow People

Modernity has an ideal. Young, healthy, independent. Oh, it’s not a secret… the secret is the extent to which this ideal has overtaken. Let’s discuss the modern ideal, or as I call them, the arrow people. Physical youth is not necessary for an arrow person, but the trappings of youth are. Excellent health, adventurousness, and…

Defining the Terms

To speak clearly, one must think clearly. To think clearly, one must know what one is speaking of. Defining the terms is important – especially as I’m going to turn some common use on its head. Community: A) A locale (e.g. town, neighborhood) B) A group of people in your local area with whom you…

Living Systems Require Stewards, not Masters

Living things require stewards, not masters. Why? Because living things cannot be mastered wholly – and attempts that are semi-successful ruin their objects. It is time that we gave up the idea that we can be in complete control of that which lives. Land, animals, societies and ourselves – we are far too complex to…

The Need to be Known

The need to be known goes both ways. We need to know those around us, and we need them to know us. This need is social and emotional, it’s also extremely practical. Let me start with an example of the latter. The other day, as I was driving to the grocery store, I saw a…

There Can Be Only One

We live in a culture where we focus our attention on a very few people, and only those people really “matter”. We gossip about their private lives, we envy their possessions, we sigh at their accomplishments, we strategize over their methodology, desperate to reproduce their success… and yet, they are strangers. They might as well…

New Ethics: Curiosity and the avoidance of Gossip

If we’re going to get back to being serious about community, we need to learn the lessons that have been taught – we need to learn about community killers and create new ethics. We’re going to need to make sure our communities have enough fresh air and sunlight, and we’re going to have to choke…

Letting Ourselves Be Real

I just finished an amazing book by Dietrich Bonhoeffer. One of the quotes that hit me between the teeth was: “The final breakthrough to fellowship does not occur, because, though they have fellowship with one another as believers and as devout people, they do not have fellowship as the undevout, as sinners.   The pious fellowship…

Expressing Social Emotion

We need common references to social emotions to function successfully as a culture. This is problematic in a melting pot country like our own – we don’t know how to communicate non-verbally to others in ways that they will understand emotionally. Emotions must be spoken to in the language of emotion. Words can be used,…

Weakness is not the path to obedience

There’s a concept that runs around the manosphere/fundie community that we need to “make” women obey their husbands/fathers by reducing their rights, reducing their access to education, etc ad nauseum. The problem with this is severalfold: it’s pretty creepy to outsiders/makes a poor witness/looks culty this is how you enforce obedience in slaves (or children)…