Most of us are burdened with preconceived ideas of who and what we’re supposed to be. How we’re supposed to dress, how we’re supposed to speak, how we’re supposed to interact.
Some of that is useful – one doesn’t want to burn all the etiquette books, after all – but much of it is self-induced burden. Just junk in life that gets in the way of living the truth of who you are.
If you buy something that doesn’t work for you, it’s a waste. Yes, every woman needs a white, long-sleeved shirt in her wardrobe. But that shirt doesn’t need to be bright white. It doesn’t need to be a button-down. Tailor the formality to fit your life – cotton or silk, you know you. If it fits you, you’ll wear it. It won’t wear you.
I was reminded of this today, while recording a video… who is this woman speaking and why is she wearing my face? I took on the persona that my mom used when she used to go to work. However, my mom and I are very different people – she’s 5″ taller than I am, didn’t work in a creative field, and has different coloring. The persona I was using in that video looked as silly as I did back in high-school, raiding my mom’s closet. It wasn’t *me*.
Folks can see straight through you when you put on a persona. Even if you’ve only been introduced it reads as false. Don’t do it! Figure out how to be yourself, not someone else. Yes, that’s harder at first… but like telling the truth instead of lying, it’s a lot easier in the end.
And when you’re really you, everything starts falling together.