There’s a concept that runs around the manosphere/fundie community that we need to “make” women obey their husbands/fathers by reducing their rights, reducing their access to education, etc ad nauseum. The problem with this is severalfold: it’s pretty creepy to outsiders/makes a poor witness/looks culty this is how you enforce obedience in slaves (or children)…
Author: hearthie
Post Christian America: A Reality Check
There’s always been a choice for every person on this planet – Christ or Something Else. We can categorize the Something Else as “The World, The Flesh, and The Devil”. I’d like to explore how this has changed in our post-Christian America, and what it means to us. Calling any culture post-Christian is a bit…
Style Evolves
As we’re moving into 2020, many of us online are doing retrospectives. Where were you, ten years ago? Twenty? And how were you dressed? Style is a conversation that you have with the people around you, communicating to them who you are and what you’re about. Twenty years ago, my personal style was at…
Soft and Hard
The overall effect of structure/soft in your outfit should match the overall effect of structure/soft in your persona. Your outfit includes your body – those raw materials we love to fret over. Your persona is not just your personality, it’s also the public affairs office of that personality – what you want others to…
Seasonal Color Analysis (CMB)
I learned about seasonal color theory when I was a girl, and I think it’s a great place to start working out your best (and worst) colors. The original Color Me Beautiful, although it had its faults (aka all women-of-color are Winters – NOT) had a good solid basic platform to build on. Start there….
Zyla’s System of Color
I like David Zyla’s system of color well enough to recommend his book to my readers, and use the reference of the hands and fingertips on my clients. In short, it tells you that the colors found in your own skin, hair, and eyes are your personal best colors, and it takes the four-season system…
Beauty is intrinsically worthy
It is good that there is beauty in this world. I was admiring a picture of a stained-glass room this morning. Absolutely stunning. I don’t need to own that room to receive value from it. I can know that it exists. I can see it.. maybe one day in person. It pleases me, to know…
You Can’t Be Too You
You just can’t dress too much like yourself. Oh sure. Situations. But … even so. You should always look like YOU in those situations, whatever they are. I worry often about dressing just … too too. Too too sweet – am I becoming mutton dressing as lamb? Too too bohemian… do I look like I’m…
Everything for a Purpose
One of the blockades inside of the mind of every woman who is embarking on the journey of personal improvement is, “why bother”? So – why do you bother dressing intentionally for work, when the dress code is business casual, and no one cares? Why do you bother putting on makeup, when you work in…
An At-Home Wardrobe
So, you say – it’s great that you’re telling me about how to dress for the office, but I don’t work in an office! How do I look pulled-together as someone who works in (or from) her home? First things first – even if you aren’t going into an office, you still need to look…