Ah, another picture snapped at the gym… we had a barbeque… I did some deadlifting…
This is why you rely on the camera for truth, not the mirror. Because I look in the mirror every single day, and I hadn’t noticed how compact I’d gotten, how square I’d gotten. How can I dress myself if I can’t see myself?
How can you dress yourself, if you don’t see what someone else sees? Take pictures. Look at the pictures other people take of you. And when you stop wincing at the unflattering angles and bad lighting, look at your overall shape.
What is your shape? What are your proportions? Where do your best horizontal and vertical lines sit? If you put your hemline *here*, what happens to your overall impression? If I added or changed my accessories, would it improve things? Am I achieving the impression that I want to achieve?
When things change radically, you need to step back and completely re-evaluate your look.
Ask some more cheery questions like, “What is awesome about how I look right now?” “What’s interesting about me?” “What parts of my personality are peeking out of the corners?”
Maybe your changing figure means that you need to change your look to make the “you” show up a little bit more loudly. Be open to throwing everything you think you know about dressing yourself out the window, and starting from scratch, as if you were dressing someone new.